mutual empathy - ANS ✔✔the underlying knowledge that each partner in a relationship cares
for the other and knows that the care is reciprocated
purpose of non-verbal communication - ANS ✔✔Regulates and defines relationships
Facial, body language
faked facial expressions - ANS ✔✔Overexpressed
Minimized
Neutralized
Masked
gazing behaviour - ANS ✔✔how much eye contact people are making; the more eye contact the
closer these people are together
Communicates how interested you are in what the other person is saying
parts of active listening - ANS ✔✔Eye contact
Noddings
Asking probing questions
Feedback
Positive demeanor
When making requests in sexual communication: - ANS ✔✔Important to use I statements, be
specific, tackle one issue at a time, don't communicate angry, choose the right time and place
John Gottman and communication:
,argue now be happy later?
5 bad communication habits - ANS ✔✔air out issues as they come up, better outcomes later on
5 destructive communication patterns:
Criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling, belligerence
What is belligerence:
Actively denying the partner any part in having an impact on the relationship
misgendering - ANS ✔✔intentionally or unintentionally using the wrong pronouns to address
someone that does not reflect their gender
Ex: Mary (he/him) keeps being referred to as a (she/her) by his boss
assigned sex - ANS ✔✔refers to the sex that has been assigned to you by doctors at birth base
don external genitalia features
Culturally specific
gender dysphoria - ANS ✔✔When someone is distressed about their gender expression and
what they had been assigned to at birth
Causes distress in many parts of their life for over 6 months
3/4 types of transitionning - ANS ✔✔Medical: hormone treatment, top/bottom surgery
Legal: changing names on birth certificates/ gender on driving liscense
Social: using bathroom they feel most comfy with, pronouns
time
gender euphoria - ANS ✔✔When your gender expression and identity are in alignment with
one-another
,Heterosexual script: - ANS ✔✔Kissing, breast,genital contact, oral, penetration
Erases importance of foreplay, more for mens pleasure, says that real sex is penetration
orgasm gap - ANS ✔✔When more men orgasm than women with intercourse alone in
heterosexual relationships
How can this be solved: less emphasis on penile-vaginal penetration, more communication
Lesbian Bed Death - ANS ✔✔When lesbains stop having sex in longer term relationships
Same gender relationships: less emphasis on penis-vaginal sex/intercourse
More varied sexual activity, more acceptance that foreplay activities count as "sex"
sides (gay/bi) - ANS ✔✔gay/bi men who prefere to not engage in anal penetrative activities:
none to some
-finger ok in some cases, penis no
Sexual orientation definition: - ANS ✔✔Which gender/sex someone is sexually attracted to. This
orientation is not dependent on sexual behaviour
This is a good definition, but it is limited
Walk through the classic process of coming out: Cass' Model of Identify Development - ANS
✔✔Identify confusion (discovery), awareness of feelings, confusion
Identity comparison: the maybe I am gay stage, going over implications of this,many different
response options
Identity tolerance: I probably am gay stage
Identify acceptance
Identity pride
Identity synthesis: us and them mentality
, issues with Cass' model of identity development - ANS ✔✔not linear in real life, assumed
permanence which isn't always the case
sexual/affectional orientation - ANS ✔✔in this definition, it refers to more than just sexual
attraction, involves romantic attraction, emotional attachment, pronouns, etc.
asexual - ANS ✔✔someone who rarely feels the need to be sexual, they still might, for other
reasons such as to please their partner, etc.
Not distressed by this no need to sex
Don't feel sexually attracted to others
Not a sexual dysfunction, not abstinence either (here you are choosing to not be sexual)
graysexual - ANS ✔✔halfway between sexual and asexual
demisexual - ANS ✔✔not attracted sexually without emotional attachment
paraphilias meaning/description - ANS ✔✔beyond typical love
Sexual arousal depends on something that is atypical, not turned on by vanilla things, things
other than genitals fair game, etc.
But....just because it's uncommon, doesn't mean it's problematic
And just because you do these things occasionally, doesn't mean its part of this category
DSM-5 definition of paraphilias criteria - ANS ✔✔significantly causing
distress/harm/nonconsensual behaviours in atypical sexual interests for 6 months+ (can be
urges, fantasies and even behaviors)
Paraphilic disorders breakdown: