Divorces and separations
1. Generally
Divorce can feel like your dreams are shattered and everything is upside down, but this
is part of life and it is quite common for people to stop loving the other partner and to
grow apart (Nilsson, 2008, p. 13).
Divorce can be an emotional turbulence for both children and parents (Broberg,
Hagström & Broberg, 2012, p. 235). The number of divorces has increased over time so
the view of divorce has also changed. Divorces were events that attracted a lot of
attention in the past, but there are no condemning attitudes towards people who are
divorced anymore, so divorces have become normal events. (Öberg & Öberg, 1987, p.
14). About half of marriages end in divorce (Nilsson, 2018, p. 56). The divorce can be
sudden or it can be planned, but this does not really matter because you handle the
divorce in a completely different way when you have children than if you do not have
children (Nilsson, 2008, p. 13).
When parents divorce, there is nothing worse for a child; changes might be tough for
them to deal with. The majority of children are at their happiest when they have a
consistent daily schedule (Nilsson, 2008, p. 32). Divorce is extremely tough for young
children under the age of three because they do not grasp what is going on and lack the
linguistic skills to even discuss the matter (Broberg, Hagström, & Broberg, 2012, p.
236).
Many children feel safe knowing that their parents are together, i.e., that they have both
a mother and a father; in fact, many youngsters wish for their parents to be together
again, even if they are remarried (Öberg & Öberg, 1987, p. 65).
1.1. Informing children
Some parents find it difficult to tell their children that they want to divorce, so they put it
1. Generally
Divorce can feel like your dreams are shattered and everything is upside down, but this
is part of life and it is quite common for people to stop loving the other partner and to
grow apart (Nilsson, 2008, p. 13).
Divorce can be an emotional turbulence for both children and parents (Broberg,
Hagström & Broberg, 2012, p. 235). The number of divorces has increased over time so
the view of divorce has also changed. Divorces were events that attracted a lot of
attention in the past, but there are no condemning attitudes towards people who are
divorced anymore, so divorces have become normal events. (Öberg & Öberg, 1987, p.
14). About half of marriages end in divorce (Nilsson, 2018, p. 56). The divorce can be
sudden or it can be planned, but this does not really matter because you handle the
divorce in a completely different way when you have children than if you do not have
children (Nilsson, 2008, p. 13).
When parents divorce, there is nothing worse for a child; changes might be tough for
them to deal with. The majority of children are at their happiest when they have a
consistent daily schedule (Nilsson, 2008, p. 32). Divorce is extremely tough for young
children under the age of three because they do not grasp what is going on and lack the
linguistic skills to even discuss the matter (Broberg, Hagström, & Broberg, 2012, p.
236).
Many children feel safe knowing that their parents are together, i.e., that they have both
a mother and a father; in fact, many youngsters wish for their parents to be together
again, even if they are remarried (Öberg & Öberg, 1987, p. 65).
1.1. Informing children
Some parents find it difficult to tell their children that they want to divorce, so they put it
