CMN 230 INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION lecture note
2022 update success assuared
August 22nd
Interpersonal communication
– reason #1: always talking 1 v 1
– reason #2: better intimate relationships
– reason #3: be more successful in your career
– reason #4: better health
{emotionally} definition of IPC
– situational approach: two ppl and the communication situation
– developmental approach: communication quality
– quality: impersonal/ personal
– ordering coffee= impersonal {don't have connection to that person}
I. culture sociological psychological
impersonal................................................................interpersonal
ex. You n him are ex. From US & ex. Know person
from the US go to U of I very well {sibs, bffs}
ii. quality= humanity of the conversation
{care for ppl; all apart of
humanity} I- it I- them
{treat cashier as { treat them as
machine} human}
DEFINITION: IPC is verbal and nonverbal interaction {face to face/ mediated} between two
CMN 230 INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION lecture note
2022 update success assuared
,CMN 230 INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION lecture note
2022 update success assuared
interdependent people {situational, quality}
– relational= intimate, one thing you do effects what the other person
does 5 Principles of IPC
IPC is...
– purposeful: goals when we communicate; strategy
– transactional: give you something back in return
– relational: communication impacts relationships
– irreversible: can't take back what you said
– synchronous/ asynchronous: insync. Both communicating at the same
time 4 common misconceptions of IPC
– communication solves all problems
– more communication is better
– successful communication= complete understanding
– knowledge of communication is inherent
September 24th
Relational stages:
Staircase model
Bonding
Intimacy Diff.
increasing Circumstances
Integrating
avoid
Coming Intensifying termination
Coming
Together Experimenting Apart
Initiating
CMN 230 INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION lecture note
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Coming Together
CMN 230 INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION lecture note
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1) Initiating: contact w/ a person for the first time
1. with people you know or not {with someone you know= easier}
2. attractiveness; wearing
2) Experimenting: potential you can see yourself engaging in with the person
1. ex. “ What do we have in common”
1. affinity- seeking strategies
1. seeking their liking; positively
2. gift giving: { 2nd date and buying partner an iphone= BAD}
3. doing favors {holding doors}
4. acting very warm/ friendly
5. “best” foot forward
3) Intensifying: “We” and “US” language
1. Testing the relationship
1. indirect suggestions {jokes}
2. endurance tests: doing something just
September 7h
How many plans is the ideal number of plans?
– 3
Interpersonal Needs- three
1) Inclusion
CMN 230 INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION lecture note
2022 update success assuared
2022 update success assuared
August 22nd
Interpersonal communication
– reason #1: always talking 1 v 1
– reason #2: better intimate relationships
– reason #3: be more successful in your career
– reason #4: better health
{emotionally} definition of IPC
– situational approach: two ppl and the communication situation
– developmental approach: communication quality
– quality: impersonal/ personal
– ordering coffee= impersonal {don't have connection to that person}
I. culture sociological psychological
impersonal................................................................interpersonal
ex. You n him are ex. From US & ex. Know person
from the US go to U of I very well {sibs, bffs}
ii. quality= humanity of the conversation
{care for ppl; all apart of
humanity} I- it I- them
{treat cashier as { treat them as
machine} human}
DEFINITION: IPC is verbal and nonverbal interaction {face to face/ mediated} between two
CMN 230 INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION lecture note
2022 update success assuared
,CMN 230 INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION lecture note
2022 update success assuared
interdependent people {situational, quality}
– relational= intimate, one thing you do effects what the other person
does 5 Principles of IPC
IPC is...
– purposeful: goals when we communicate; strategy
– transactional: give you something back in return
– relational: communication impacts relationships
– irreversible: can't take back what you said
– synchronous/ asynchronous: insync. Both communicating at the same
time 4 common misconceptions of IPC
– communication solves all problems
– more communication is better
– successful communication= complete understanding
– knowledge of communication is inherent
September 24th
Relational stages:
Staircase model
Bonding
Intimacy Diff.
increasing Circumstances
Integrating
avoid
Coming Intensifying termination
Coming
Together Experimenting Apart
Initiating
CMN 230 INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION lecture note
2022 update success assuared
,CMN 230 INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION lecture note
2022 update success assuared
Coming Together
CMN 230 INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION lecture note
2022 update success assuared
, CMN 230 INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION lecture note
2022 update success assuared
1) Initiating: contact w/ a person for the first time
1. with people you know or not {with someone you know= easier}
2. attractiveness; wearing
2) Experimenting: potential you can see yourself engaging in with the person
1. ex. “ What do we have in common”
1. affinity- seeking strategies
1. seeking their liking; positively
2. gift giving: { 2nd date and buying partner an iphone= BAD}
3. doing favors {holding doors}
4. acting very warm/ friendly
5. “best” foot forward
3) Intensifying: “We” and “US” language
1. Testing the relationship
1. indirect suggestions {jokes}
2. endurance tests: doing something just
September 7h
How many plans is the ideal number of plans?
– 3
Interpersonal Needs- three
1) Inclusion
CMN 230 INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION lecture note
2022 update success assuared
