MINDFUL
COMMUNICATION
2
TEACHER: CRISTINA CHALISTIA
DATE: 18JANUARY 2023
COURSE NAME: MINDFUL COMMUNICATION 2
, Table of contents
Week 1 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------2
Week 2 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------3
Week 3 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------5
Week 4 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------7
Week 5 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------9
Week 6 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------12
Week 7 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------13
Reflection and action ------------------------------------------------------------------------ 16
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, Week 1:
Weekly assignment week 1:
1.1 your upbringing
Overprotective and democratic are the parenting styles that matched my upbringing. My parents were
overprotective, they thought the outer world was full of monsters. They controlled me in a very weird way.
When I was a child, I thought that this was controlling but as I grew up, I understood that this resulted from
love. They loved me and they were worried about me. They controlled my gatherings, hanging outs, and my
friends. They would choose for me people that I am allowed to hang out with. They would choose the places
where I am allowed to be. Moreover, my parents were also so democratic. They were controlling me but there
was mutual respect between us. There were also some responsibilities on me that I need to save myself. They
are not going to live forever for me. I need to take care of my actions. So, they set boundaries and rules for me
but at the same time they gave me some freedom. This affected me now. I am very overprotective, and I am
scared of people. I can't trust anyone easily; I can’t go to any gatherings without knowing the people. I became
an unopen person and a person that is enclosed in herself.
1.2 beliefs
1- I can’t have what I want: as a child my parents were democratic, but I did not have enough
autonomy. I always had to listen to them because they are always correct, and they know the best.
So, I grew up knowing that I can never have what I want unless I get permission from someone or
unless someone gives me that thing.
2- I must hide my true feelings: my parents were overprotective. They taught me not to trust anyone.
They made me only trust them. I had to hide my feelings all the time from my friends and other
surrounding people. I had to tell my mom about my feelings but sometimes I could not tell my mom
about certain feelings, so I kept them inside me. It affected me now because I feel like I am a closed
box that is full of feelings that cannot be explained to anyone.
3- The world isn’t a safe place: back again to the overprotective point. My parents were very worried
about me and as I mentioned before they would control the people that I sit with or know. They
thought that people are monsters and that they should save me from the outer world. I grew up as an
insecure and fearful person. I am afraid of people around me and I can never trust any of them.
1.3 non-violent communication
observations: it is very easy for me to observe and see. I can acknowledge my observations but cannot share
them easily.
Feelings: based on the parenting style I had. I am not capable of expressing my feelings very well. However,
after having MFCM 1 I am feeling much better and I know how to express my feelings.
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COMMUNICATION
2
TEACHER: CRISTINA CHALISTIA
DATE: 18JANUARY 2023
COURSE NAME: MINDFUL COMMUNICATION 2
, Table of contents
Week 1 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------2
Week 2 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------3
Week 3 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------5
Week 4 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------7
Week 5 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------9
Week 6 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------12
Week 7 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------13
Reflection and action ------------------------------------------------------------------------ 16
1
, Week 1:
Weekly assignment week 1:
1.1 your upbringing
Overprotective and democratic are the parenting styles that matched my upbringing. My parents were
overprotective, they thought the outer world was full of monsters. They controlled me in a very weird way.
When I was a child, I thought that this was controlling but as I grew up, I understood that this resulted from
love. They loved me and they were worried about me. They controlled my gatherings, hanging outs, and my
friends. They would choose for me people that I am allowed to hang out with. They would choose the places
where I am allowed to be. Moreover, my parents were also so democratic. They were controlling me but there
was mutual respect between us. There were also some responsibilities on me that I need to save myself. They
are not going to live forever for me. I need to take care of my actions. So, they set boundaries and rules for me
but at the same time they gave me some freedom. This affected me now. I am very overprotective, and I am
scared of people. I can't trust anyone easily; I can’t go to any gatherings without knowing the people. I became
an unopen person and a person that is enclosed in herself.
1.2 beliefs
1- I can’t have what I want: as a child my parents were democratic, but I did not have enough
autonomy. I always had to listen to them because they are always correct, and they know the best.
So, I grew up knowing that I can never have what I want unless I get permission from someone or
unless someone gives me that thing.
2- I must hide my true feelings: my parents were overprotective. They taught me not to trust anyone.
They made me only trust them. I had to hide my feelings all the time from my friends and other
surrounding people. I had to tell my mom about my feelings but sometimes I could not tell my mom
about certain feelings, so I kept them inside me. It affected me now because I feel like I am a closed
box that is full of feelings that cannot be explained to anyone.
3- The world isn’t a safe place: back again to the overprotective point. My parents were very worried
about me and as I mentioned before they would control the people that I sit with or know. They
thought that people are monsters and that they should save me from the outer world. I grew up as an
insecure and fearful person. I am afraid of people around me and I can never trust any of them.
1.3 non-violent communication
observations: it is very easy for me to observe and see. I can acknowledge my observations but cannot share
them easily.
Feelings: based on the parenting style I had. I am not capable of expressing my feelings very well. However,
after having MFCM 1 I am feeling much better and I know how to express my feelings.
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