Summary #8 all you need is love
What increases liking?
similarity (attitudes, MATCHING HYPOTHESIS)
a. we tend to view our own characteristics as desirable
b. we think similarity leads to reciprocity
c. intertwined with familiarity
d. similarity + chances of meeting/ positive interaction
e. sense of connection when people have things in common
f. average effect
= Faces morphed toward the average were perceived as more attractive
physical appearance (halo effect)
a. health
b. Differences in beauty (groups/culture)
c. Resources through physical appearance (strong protection)
d. Fertility (hourglass/red)
Positive interaction
a. Connectedness
b. Master the world/share experiences
c. People possess kind, friendly behavior.
d. Familiarity (mere exposure effect)
e. Proximity
Men care more about physical appearance
Women care more about social status/ambition/succes
Theories that influence behavior/attitude in a relationship
Social exchange theory (both formation/maintenance/break up)
= people calculate the costs and benefits of a relationship in order to decide whether it is
satisfying or not.
One always tries to minimize the cost and to maximize the reward (minimax strategy) with
the aim of making a profit.
This calculation of cost and reward is compared to a comparison level (CL).
= a level formed by previous experience that sets the baseline for what one needs out of a
relationship.
Profit > CL satisfying relationship
Profit < CL unsatisfying relationship
equity model (both maintain/breakup)
= wanting the relationship to have fair balance according to
inputs/outputs
triangle theory of love
, Six step circle of love?
3 factor theory of love (formation of love)
Physiological arousal has to be labelled as love*
Heider’s balance theory (formation/maintain/break up)
2 partners share the same attitude to a 3rd factor facilitates closeness/liking/friendship
2 members of the triad share the same attitude = balanced triangle.
Nuances by Weaver and Bosson:
When 2 strangers share the same weak, negative attitude towards a 3 rd factor this leads to
enhanced closeness/familiarity.
This can be explained by the not socially desirable negative attitude quick association with
dispositional factors (correspondence inference) + feeling of closeness/knowing partner
+ bonding
A strong attitude will promote relatively strong emotions of intimacy anyways
Differences
Liking = wanting to be in a person’s presence
Loving = + trust
Being in love = + sexual arousal/attracting
Factors affecting attachment
- Social penetration model (altman/taylor)
What increases liking?
similarity (attitudes, MATCHING HYPOTHESIS)
a. we tend to view our own characteristics as desirable
b. we think similarity leads to reciprocity
c. intertwined with familiarity
d. similarity + chances of meeting/ positive interaction
e. sense of connection when people have things in common
f. average effect
= Faces morphed toward the average were perceived as more attractive
physical appearance (halo effect)
a. health
b. Differences in beauty (groups/culture)
c. Resources through physical appearance (strong protection)
d. Fertility (hourglass/red)
Positive interaction
a. Connectedness
b. Master the world/share experiences
c. People possess kind, friendly behavior.
d. Familiarity (mere exposure effect)
e. Proximity
Men care more about physical appearance
Women care more about social status/ambition/succes
Theories that influence behavior/attitude in a relationship
Social exchange theory (both formation/maintenance/break up)
= people calculate the costs and benefits of a relationship in order to decide whether it is
satisfying or not.
One always tries to minimize the cost and to maximize the reward (minimax strategy) with
the aim of making a profit.
This calculation of cost and reward is compared to a comparison level (CL).
= a level formed by previous experience that sets the baseline for what one needs out of a
relationship.
Profit > CL satisfying relationship
Profit < CL unsatisfying relationship
equity model (both maintain/breakup)
= wanting the relationship to have fair balance according to
inputs/outputs
triangle theory of love
, Six step circle of love?
3 factor theory of love (formation of love)
Physiological arousal has to be labelled as love*
Heider’s balance theory (formation/maintain/break up)
2 partners share the same attitude to a 3rd factor facilitates closeness/liking/friendship
2 members of the triad share the same attitude = balanced triangle.
Nuances by Weaver and Bosson:
When 2 strangers share the same weak, negative attitude towards a 3 rd factor this leads to
enhanced closeness/familiarity.
This can be explained by the not socially desirable negative attitude quick association with
dispositional factors (correspondence inference) + feeling of closeness/knowing partner
+ bonding
A strong attitude will promote relatively strong emotions of intimacy anyways
Differences
Liking = wanting to be in a person’s presence
Loving = + trust
Being in love = + sexual arousal/attracting
Factors affecting attachment
- Social penetration model (altman/taylor)
