PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP
RELATIONSHIP
- a state of being related or connected to other people.
- being in a relationship means that you are emotionally involved or connected in some way.
- love is often an emotion that is involved in a relationship
4 TYPES OF RELATIONSHIP
As a child, we are nurtured, respected, and grow up to care for others and develop a strong and healthy
relationship with other people.
1. Family Relationships
Family
- a group of people to whom we are blood-related.
- includes your siblings and parents, as well as your cousins, aunts, uncles and
grandparents.
2. Friends
- someone you know well and regard with affection, trust, and respect.
- everyone needs friends, but as we grow older some of our friends may change and some
may grow deeper.
- the best ways to make new friends is to be involved in school and community activities. Be
friendly and helpful, talk to them, get to know them, and find out if you have something in
common.
3. Casual Relationships
- formed with people we encounter everyday.
- Ex. with our teacher, doctor, guard, tricycle driver, etc.
- we have a casual relationship with anyone who is not our friend or a family member.
- easy to maintain, if we happen to pass with someone we recognize in the street, we can
simply smile at them or say "hello" as a sign of respect and recognition.
4. Romantic Relationship
- involves a person whom we have an emotional connection with.
- it emphasizes being in love with a certain individual.
- in a romantic relationship, you both respect each other and have your own identity.
- brings lots of emotional ups and downs, growing interests in body image and looks,
seeking independence and privacy.
THE SCIENCE OF ATTRACTION AND LOVE
Attraction
- a feeling of interest into something or someone.
2 THEORIES that explain why we get attracted to the opposite sex
1. Evolutionary Need
- every creature in nature attracts a potential mate in order for their species to continue.
The same is true for human beings.
- it is natural for human beings to attract and get attracted to a stronger, healthier, and
attractive mate so that there will be no problem in the continuity of their heritage.
2. The Role of Hormones
- hormones are a form of chemical compounds in our body which is released at various
stages of life and times as when needed.
3 STAGES OF LOVE that are influenced by the different hormones in our body.
● Stage 1 - Lust (erotic passion)
- when we are a teenager, after puberty, estrogen and testosterone become active in our
bodies. It creates a desire to experience "love".
- if the relationship progress, attraction comes.
, ● Stage 2 - Attraction (romantic passion)
- in this stage, we often lose our ability to think rationally, the saying "love is blind" is
experienced.
- the hormones that play their role in this emotional state are dopamine and adrenaline.
- in this stage, couples spend many hours getting to know each other.
● Stage 3 - Attachment (commitment)
- if the 2nd stage attraction remains strong and is felt by both of them, then they usually
enter this 3rd stage
- very much needed for a successful relationship. Oxytocin, vasopressin, and endorphins are
the hormones which are responsible for this feeling.
- we passed fantasy love and are entering into real love. This stage of love has to be strong
enough to withstand many problems and distractions.
EXPRESSIONS OF ATTRACTION
Individuals have different forms of expressing their attraction to other people. In our culture, note that
there are acceptable and unacceptable expressions of attraction.
Acceptable
● Courting
● Giving compliments
● Writing a love letter
● Singing a song
● Doing some acts of service (carrying bags, books, etc.)
Unacceptable
● Stalking
● Flirting
● Being arrogant
● Having a public display of affection
● Having a sexual intercourse
EXPRESSING WAYS OF SHOWING ATTRACTION, LOVE, AND COMMITMENT
ATTRACTION
- in social psychology, it is a natural feeling where a person is being drawn to other individuals and
desire their company.
Ways of Showing Attraction
● Smile
- Smiling is a body language that shows that you are open to a person. It also acts as a
reward. When a person sees someone smiling at him or her, the brain registers it as a
reward.
● Make an eye contact
- Looking up at a person shows that you are interested in them. Looking at her eyes is
always a good start. Looking down indicates a lack of confidence.
● Talk to the person every time you see him or her
- Find your common interests, it will help you to bring something to talk about.
● Repeat his or her name
- It will give an impression that you are paying attention to details.
● Listen to his or her stories
- If he or she starts talking about himself or herself, show that you are interested in what he
or she is saying.
● Laugh when he or she tells a joke
, LOVE
- according to Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, every human being requires love.
- human being strive for acceptance and affiliation with other people.
- the "need to belong" motivates us to bond with others in relationships that provide positive
interactions.
Ways of Showing Love: Through Words
● Give compliments
- To show a person how much we value them, we can give genuine compliments. Notice the
unique characteristics that you like about the person.
● Encourage and support them
- Everyone likes having support for the things that they do. Encourage those around you to
grow and pursue what makes them happy.
● Ask for advice
- It may be to your parents, friends, or partner it shows that you value and trust their
opinions.
● Open up and share your feelings
- Having a heart-to-heart talk shows your trust and confidence to that person. It is also a
good way to show that you are comfortable around him or her.
Ways of Showing Love: Through Daily Behavior
● Be a good listener
- While your loved one is talking, do your best to give them your full attention and listen. It
is one of the simplest ways to show your love.
● Be affectionate
- The best way to show your love to someone without using words is by giving a kiss and a
hug. A good long hug is great for showing love and building connection.
Ways of Showing Love: Through Special Gestures
● Cook for them
- One way to build deep connection and show appreciation to other people is by preparing
food for them. Example: cooking their favorite food on their birthday.
● Make time for them
- Some people feel love by spending quality time with their loved one. Have a quality time
together, it means giving your undivided attention. Example: watching movie, going to
picnic
● Random surprises
- Some people love random surprises. When you listen to everything the person says, you
learn a lot about them. Example: when a person is down, you can offer his or her favorite
flavor of ice cream.
● Give gifts
- For some people, the act of giving is an expression of love. It is the thought that counts
not just the gift itself.
COMMITMENT
- a decision that one cares for the other person and wishes to maintain a relationship.
- you will keep on treating each other with respect and promise to support each other now and in
the future.
People showing commitment in a relationship can differ depending on past and present experiences and
expectations.
RELATIONSHIP
- a state of being related or connected to other people.
- being in a relationship means that you are emotionally involved or connected in some way.
- love is often an emotion that is involved in a relationship
4 TYPES OF RELATIONSHIP
As a child, we are nurtured, respected, and grow up to care for others and develop a strong and healthy
relationship with other people.
1. Family Relationships
Family
- a group of people to whom we are blood-related.
- includes your siblings and parents, as well as your cousins, aunts, uncles and
grandparents.
2. Friends
- someone you know well and regard with affection, trust, and respect.
- everyone needs friends, but as we grow older some of our friends may change and some
may grow deeper.
- the best ways to make new friends is to be involved in school and community activities. Be
friendly and helpful, talk to them, get to know them, and find out if you have something in
common.
3. Casual Relationships
- formed with people we encounter everyday.
- Ex. with our teacher, doctor, guard, tricycle driver, etc.
- we have a casual relationship with anyone who is not our friend or a family member.
- easy to maintain, if we happen to pass with someone we recognize in the street, we can
simply smile at them or say "hello" as a sign of respect and recognition.
4. Romantic Relationship
- involves a person whom we have an emotional connection with.
- it emphasizes being in love with a certain individual.
- in a romantic relationship, you both respect each other and have your own identity.
- brings lots of emotional ups and downs, growing interests in body image and looks,
seeking independence and privacy.
THE SCIENCE OF ATTRACTION AND LOVE
Attraction
- a feeling of interest into something or someone.
2 THEORIES that explain why we get attracted to the opposite sex
1. Evolutionary Need
- every creature in nature attracts a potential mate in order for their species to continue.
The same is true for human beings.
- it is natural for human beings to attract and get attracted to a stronger, healthier, and
attractive mate so that there will be no problem in the continuity of their heritage.
2. The Role of Hormones
- hormones are a form of chemical compounds in our body which is released at various
stages of life and times as when needed.
3 STAGES OF LOVE that are influenced by the different hormones in our body.
● Stage 1 - Lust (erotic passion)
- when we are a teenager, after puberty, estrogen and testosterone become active in our
bodies. It creates a desire to experience "love".
- if the relationship progress, attraction comes.
, ● Stage 2 - Attraction (romantic passion)
- in this stage, we often lose our ability to think rationally, the saying "love is blind" is
experienced.
- the hormones that play their role in this emotional state are dopamine and adrenaline.
- in this stage, couples spend many hours getting to know each other.
● Stage 3 - Attachment (commitment)
- if the 2nd stage attraction remains strong and is felt by both of them, then they usually
enter this 3rd stage
- very much needed for a successful relationship. Oxytocin, vasopressin, and endorphins are
the hormones which are responsible for this feeling.
- we passed fantasy love and are entering into real love. This stage of love has to be strong
enough to withstand many problems and distractions.
EXPRESSIONS OF ATTRACTION
Individuals have different forms of expressing their attraction to other people. In our culture, note that
there are acceptable and unacceptable expressions of attraction.
Acceptable
● Courting
● Giving compliments
● Writing a love letter
● Singing a song
● Doing some acts of service (carrying bags, books, etc.)
Unacceptable
● Stalking
● Flirting
● Being arrogant
● Having a public display of affection
● Having a sexual intercourse
EXPRESSING WAYS OF SHOWING ATTRACTION, LOVE, AND COMMITMENT
ATTRACTION
- in social psychology, it is a natural feeling where a person is being drawn to other individuals and
desire their company.
Ways of Showing Attraction
● Smile
- Smiling is a body language that shows that you are open to a person. It also acts as a
reward. When a person sees someone smiling at him or her, the brain registers it as a
reward.
● Make an eye contact
- Looking up at a person shows that you are interested in them. Looking at her eyes is
always a good start. Looking down indicates a lack of confidence.
● Talk to the person every time you see him or her
- Find your common interests, it will help you to bring something to talk about.
● Repeat his or her name
- It will give an impression that you are paying attention to details.
● Listen to his or her stories
- If he or she starts talking about himself or herself, show that you are interested in what he
or she is saying.
● Laugh when he or she tells a joke
, LOVE
- according to Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, every human being requires love.
- human being strive for acceptance and affiliation with other people.
- the "need to belong" motivates us to bond with others in relationships that provide positive
interactions.
Ways of Showing Love: Through Words
● Give compliments
- To show a person how much we value them, we can give genuine compliments. Notice the
unique characteristics that you like about the person.
● Encourage and support them
- Everyone likes having support for the things that they do. Encourage those around you to
grow and pursue what makes them happy.
● Ask for advice
- It may be to your parents, friends, or partner it shows that you value and trust their
opinions.
● Open up and share your feelings
- Having a heart-to-heart talk shows your trust and confidence to that person. It is also a
good way to show that you are comfortable around him or her.
Ways of Showing Love: Through Daily Behavior
● Be a good listener
- While your loved one is talking, do your best to give them your full attention and listen. It
is one of the simplest ways to show your love.
● Be affectionate
- The best way to show your love to someone without using words is by giving a kiss and a
hug. A good long hug is great for showing love and building connection.
Ways of Showing Love: Through Special Gestures
● Cook for them
- One way to build deep connection and show appreciation to other people is by preparing
food for them. Example: cooking their favorite food on their birthday.
● Make time for them
- Some people feel love by spending quality time with their loved one. Have a quality time
together, it means giving your undivided attention. Example: watching movie, going to
picnic
● Random surprises
- Some people love random surprises. When you listen to everything the person says, you
learn a lot about them. Example: when a person is down, you can offer his or her favorite
flavor of ice cream.
● Give gifts
- For some people, the act of giving is an expression of love. It is the thought that counts
not just the gift itself.
COMMITMENT
- a decision that one cares for the other person and wishes to maintain a relationship.
- you will keep on treating each other with respect and promise to support each other now and in
the future.
People showing commitment in a relationship can differ depending on past and present experiences and
expectations.
