C180 exam 3 |Questions and Answers
close relationships - ->endure over time and involve interdependent partners who satisfy
each other's needs for connection and inclusion, feel and emotional attachment to each
other and enact unique communication patterns
>a relationship is a process, not a thing
-role of communication in close relationships - ->initiate
>maintain
>repair
>terminate
-dialectics theory - ->focuses on the tensions relational partners feel
>tensions are a result of opposing desires
>tensions are a part of healthy relationships
*RELATIONAL DIALECTICS:*
*>autonomy and connection*
---->Ex. Robert feels that he and Nina would be closer if they did more things together, yet
he also like the fact that each of them has independent interests
----> After spending a week together on a backpacking trip, Mike and Ed get back to campus
and don't call or see each other for several days
*>novelty and predictability*
----> Ex. Erin and Mike want to take a vacation and are undecided whether to return to a
place they know and like or to go somewhere new and different
---->Ex. Danny feels he and kate have fallen into routines in how they spend time together.
On one hand, he like the steady rhythm they have. On the other hand, it seems boring.
*>openness and closedness/ protection*
Jennie wants to tell her friend, Anne, about her problems with school, but Jennie also wants
to keep her academic difficulties private
-systems theory - ->compares relationships to systems
> provides an overall impression of how relationships work
>compares relationships to systems in 5 important ways:
*1. Wholeness:* the who is different than the sum of its parts
*2. Interdependence:* members depend on and influence each other, what affects one
person affects everyone in the system
*3. Hierarchy:* Relationships embedded in other relational systems (couples embedded in
bigger families; siblings embedded in the immediate family)
, *4. Openness:* influence from forces outside the family (e.g., media, children's peers, the
economy)
*5. Calibration:* actions we take to maintain stability in systems/relationships
-features of relational development - -*>disclosure - greater breadth and depth*
*> Unique behaviors
----> Inside jokes, special greetings, use of slang, pet names
*> Hesitant vs. spontaneous communication
----> early in the relationship you might give more forethought of when to say something
and what---> over time, we tend to do that much less frequently, we settle into more
spontaneous communication
-Stage Model: Stages of coming together - -*1. initiating*
----> when people notice each other
*2. Experimenting*
----> people get acquainted, engage in small talk, kind of like an audition
----> social media impacts this stage because many people use social media to get to know
someone and find stuff out about them, people may not want to tell someone that they
were on their social media
*3. Intensifying*
----> self-disclosure increases closeness, development of relational expectations and
patterns
*4. Integrating*
----> form clear identity as a couple or as a unit
-----> so connected, in the case of a social event, you wouldn't invite one person and expect
the other person not to come
*5. Bonding*
----> some form of culmination, often a public commitment to the relationship
----> social media can make relationships official
**We do not always progress in a nice, neat, linear way up the staircase, sometimes we skip
or go back and forth between steps before we reach the top**
-Stage Model: Stages of Coming Apart - -*1. Differentiating*
----> begin to focus on their differences
----> can be the start of a relationship coming apart
*2. Circumscribing*
close relationships - ->endure over time and involve interdependent partners who satisfy
each other's needs for connection and inclusion, feel and emotional attachment to each
other and enact unique communication patterns
>a relationship is a process, not a thing
-role of communication in close relationships - ->initiate
>maintain
>repair
>terminate
-dialectics theory - ->focuses on the tensions relational partners feel
>tensions are a result of opposing desires
>tensions are a part of healthy relationships
*RELATIONAL DIALECTICS:*
*>autonomy and connection*
---->Ex. Robert feels that he and Nina would be closer if they did more things together, yet
he also like the fact that each of them has independent interests
----> After spending a week together on a backpacking trip, Mike and Ed get back to campus
and don't call or see each other for several days
*>novelty and predictability*
----> Ex. Erin and Mike want to take a vacation and are undecided whether to return to a
place they know and like or to go somewhere new and different
---->Ex. Danny feels he and kate have fallen into routines in how they spend time together.
On one hand, he like the steady rhythm they have. On the other hand, it seems boring.
*>openness and closedness/ protection*
Jennie wants to tell her friend, Anne, about her problems with school, but Jennie also wants
to keep her academic difficulties private
-systems theory - ->compares relationships to systems
> provides an overall impression of how relationships work
>compares relationships to systems in 5 important ways:
*1. Wholeness:* the who is different than the sum of its parts
*2. Interdependence:* members depend on and influence each other, what affects one
person affects everyone in the system
*3. Hierarchy:* Relationships embedded in other relational systems (couples embedded in
bigger families; siblings embedded in the immediate family)
, *4. Openness:* influence from forces outside the family (e.g., media, children's peers, the
economy)
*5. Calibration:* actions we take to maintain stability in systems/relationships
-features of relational development - -*>disclosure - greater breadth and depth*
*> Unique behaviors
----> Inside jokes, special greetings, use of slang, pet names
*> Hesitant vs. spontaneous communication
----> early in the relationship you might give more forethought of when to say something
and what---> over time, we tend to do that much less frequently, we settle into more
spontaneous communication
-Stage Model: Stages of coming together - -*1. initiating*
----> when people notice each other
*2. Experimenting*
----> people get acquainted, engage in small talk, kind of like an audition
----> social media impacts this stage because many people use social media to get to know
someone and find stuff out about them, people may not want to tell someone that they
were on their social media
*3. Intensifying*
----> self-disclosure increases closeness, development of relational expectations and
patterns
*4. Integrating*
----> form clear identity as a couple or as a unit
-----> so connected, in the case of a social event, you wouldn't invite one person and expect
the other person not to come
*5. Bonding*
----> some form of culmination, often a public commitment to the relationship
----> social media can make relationships official
**We do not always progress in a nice, neat, linear way up the staircase, sometimes we skip
or go back and forth between steps before we reach the top**
-Stage Model: Stages of Coming Apart - -*1. Differentiating*
----> begin to focus on their differences
----> can be the start of a relationship coming apart
*2. Circumscribing*
