FLHD 4250 (Dr.Mock) Final Exam
Questions and Answers Graded A+
Chpt. 1: Jeff and Katie have been dating for three months. Over time Jeff has been
spending more nights over her house, and even started keeping his stuff there.
Eventually he moved out of his apartment, and in with Katie. In terms of
cohabitation this is an example of what? - Correct answer-sliding
What is the difference between sliding and deciding? - Correct answer-sliding: just
letting things "happen"
deciding: supports greater commitment and openly making the decision together
using teamwork.
What unfortunate pattern do people fall into if they feel their partner is not doing
their part? What do the authors suggest a partner does instead? - Correct answer-
The partner who feels slighted feels like they are justified in not doing their part as
well. Focus on what you put in rather than what you get out
Why is Escalation so dangerous? - Correct answer-(Gottman) tits when you move
from anger/frustration to contempt that the greatest damage is done.
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,-say things that threaten the very livelihood of the marriage
-go from wanting to be heard to wanting to hurt the other
-negative comments are hard to take back
How do you short-circuit escalation? - Correct answer--soften tone
-put down defensiveness
-agnolidge the other's point of view
-give up needing to win
What is escalation? - Correct answer--partners respond back and forth negatively
to each other
-negative comments spiral into anger/frustration
-increasing emotional intensity
-tendency to move from anger to hurtful comments about each other
How you should and shouldn't bring up a subject? - Correct answer-Should:
-gentle
-polite manner
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, Shouldn't:
-angry tone
-hostility
-
Differences between men and women in bringing up issues/handling conflict -
Correct answer-men:
- more likely voice that their wives get upset too much (nagging)
-desire peace at any price, (less fights, harmony, calm)
-likely to withdraw
Women
-express more emotion
-more likely to voice concerns (about withdrawn husbands)
-more likely to value and seek communication about how the relationship is going
more than men
-likely to pursue
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Questions and Answers Graded A+
Chpt. 1: Jeff and Katie have been dating for three months. Over time Jeff has been
spending more nights over her house, and even started keeping his stuff there.
Eventually he moved out of his apartment, and in with Katie. In terms of
cohabitation this is an example of what? - Correct answer-sliding
What is the difference between sliding and deciding? - Correct answer-sliding: just
letting things "happen"
deciding: supports greater commitment and openly making the decision together
using teamwork.
What unfortunate pattern do people fall into if they feel their partner is not doing
their part? What do the authors suggest a partner does instead? - Correct answer-
The partner who feels slighted feels like they are justified in not doing their part as
well. Focus on what you put in rather than what you get out
Why is Escalation so dangerous? - Correct answer-(Gottman) tits when you move
from anger/frustration to contempt that the greatest damage is done.
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,-say things that threaten the very livelihood of the marriage
-go from wanting to be heard to wanting to hurt the other
-negative comments are hard to take back
How do you short-circuit escalation? - Correct answer--soften tone
-put down defensiveness
-agnolidge the other's point of view
-give up needing to win
What is escalation? - Correct answer--partners respond back and forth negatively
to each other
-negative comments spiral into anger/frustration
-increasing emotional intensity
-tendency to move from anger to hurtful comments about each other
How you should and shouldn't bring up a subject? - Correct answer-Should:
-gentle
-polite manner
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, Shouldn't:
-angry tone
-hostility
-
Differences between men and women in bringing up issues/handling conflict -
Correct answer-men:
- more likely voice that their wives get upset too much (nagging)
-desire peace at any price, (less fights, harmony, calm)
-likely to withdraw
Women
-express more emotion
-more likely to voice concerns (about withdrawn husbands)
-more likely to value and seek communication about how the relationship is going
more than men
-likely to pursue
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