FLHD 4250 Final Exam Questions and
Answers Graded A+
Hold Me: Blaming or pointing out the others shortcomings is an example of what?
- Correct answer-pursuing
Hold Me: What's one thing you can do to fix the broken dance as a couple?
A. Determine your attachment patterns
B. Establish that neither or you enjoy being stuck in the pattern
C. Separate the content from the process
D. Take turns listening to each other with empathy - Correct answer-B. Establish
that neither or you enjoy being stuck in the pattern
Hold Me: Which of the three Demon Dialogues are both partners conflict
avoidant?
A. protest polka
B. find the bad guy
C. freeze and flee - Correct answer-C. freeze and flee
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,Hold Me: "Why are you home late again?!", Tasha yells. "Maybe because I don't
like coming home to a nagging wife.", Christian responds. This type of argument
best typifies which of the Demon Dialogues?
A. protest polka
B. find the bad guy
C. freeze and flee - Correct answer-B. find the bad guy
Hold Me: Who is more likely to have the inner experience of feeling like they're
failing in relation to their partner? - Correct answer-B. those who are withdrawing
Hold Me: Who is more likely to have the inner experience of feeling like they're
alone in relation to their partner? - Correct answer-a. those who are pursuing
Hold Me: When Cary's girlfriend brings up a concern, even in a concerned way,
she makes a joke and tries to change the subject. What relationship pattern is Cary
displaying here? - Correct answer-b. withdrawing
Gottman suggests that in our disagreements we do what?
A. Slow things down so each partner has time to share
B. Compromise by taking turns as to who decides the outcome
C. Text instead of talking if things get too heated
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,D. Actively look for your partner's points that make sense to you - Correct answer-
D. actively looks for your partner's points that make sense to you
You are in the middle of discussing something with your boyfriend/girlfriend, but
over time your voices are becoming louder and more animated. You stop and give
them a hug, and say, "Hey let's not get like this." Would this be considered a repair
attempt? - Correct answer-yes
In softening your startup up, rather than judging you should do what?
A. Describe what is happening
B. Be direct
C. Have an object to hold when speaking
D. Empathize with your partner's point of view - Correct answer-A. describe what
is happening
Which of the four communication styles involves clearly stating your opinions and
feelings, while being respectful to the listener's feelings?
A. Passive communication
B. Aggressive communication
C. Passive-aggressive communication
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, D. Assertive communication - Correct answer-D. assertive communication
Repair attempts are well received when there are emotional investments in the
relationship. This is best done by learning and using what?
A. The art of speaking
B. Each other's love language
C. Your partner's preferred speech patterns
D. Each other's names - Correct answer-B. each other's love languages
Which type of communication patterns would lead a person to feel resentful and
anxious?
A. Passive communication
B. Aggressive communication
C. Passive-aggressive communication
D. Assertive communication - Correct answer-A. passive communication
You disagree with your spouse about who does more work around the house. You
go to work mad but then forget about it later on. Five hours later your spouse sends
you an emoji text of a heart. Is this a repair attempt? - Correct answer-no
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Answers Graded A+
Hold Me: Blaming or pointing out the others shortcomings is an example of what?
- Correct answer-pursuing
Hold Me: What's one thing you can do to fix the broken dance as a couple?
A. Determine your attachment patterns
B. Establish that neither or you enjoy being stuck in the pattern
C. Separate the content from the process
D. Take turns listening to each other with empathy - Correct answer-B. Establish
that neither or you enjoy being stuck in the pattern
Hold Me: Which of the three Demon Dialogues are both partners conflict
avoidant?
A. protest polka
B. find the bad guy
C. freeze and flee - Correct answer-C. freeze and flee
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,Hold Me: "Why are you home late again?!", Tasha yells. "Maybe because I don't
like coming home to a nagging wife.", Christian responds. This type of argument
best typifies which of the Demon Dialogues?
A. protest polka
B. find the bad guy
C. freeze and flee - Correct answer-B. find the bad guy
Hold Me: Who is more likely to have the inner experience of feeling like they're
failing in relation to their partner? - Correct answer-B. those who are withdrawing
Hold Me: Who is more likely to have the inner experience of feeling like they're
alone in relation to their partner? - Correct answer-a. those who are pursuing
Hold Me: When Cary's girlfriend brings up a concern, even in a concerned way,
she makes a joke and tries to change the subject. What relationship pattern is Cary
displaying here? - Correct answer-b. withdrawing
Gottman suggests that in our disagreements we do what?
A. Slow things down so each partner has time to share
B. Compromise by taking turns as to who decides the outcome
C. Text instead of talking if things get too heated
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,D. Actively look for your partner's points that make sense to you - Correct answer-
D. actively looks for your partner's points that make sense to you
You are in the middle of discussing something with your boyfriend/girlfriend, but
over time your voices are becoming louder and more animated. You stop and give
them a hug, and say, "Hey let's not get like this." Would this be considered a repair
attempt? - Correct answer-yes
In softening your startup up, rather than judging you should do what?
A. Describe what is happening
B. Be direct
C. Have an object to hold when speaking
D. Empathize with your partner's point of view - Correct answer-A. describe what
is happening
Which of the four communication styles involves clearly stating your opinions and
feelings, while being respectful to the listener's feelings?
A. Passive communication
B. Aggressive communication
C. Passive-aggressive communication
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, D. Assertive communication - Correct answer-D. assertive communication
Repair attempts are well received when there are emotional investments in the
relationship. This is best done by learning and using what?
A. The art of speaking
B. Each other's love language
C. Your partner's preferred speech patterns
D. Each other's names - Correct answer-B. each other's love languages
Which type of communication patterns would lead a person to feel resentful and
anxious?
A. Passive communication
B. Aggressive communication
C. Passive-aggressive communication
D. Assertive communication - Correct answer-A. passive communication
You disagree with your spouse about who does more work around the house. You
go to work mad but then forget about it later on. Five hours later your spouse sends
you an emoji text of a heart. Is this a repair attempt? - Correct answer-no
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